Last Updated on May 14, 2025

After a long week, it’s easy to use alcohol as a reward or a way to unwind. Maybe it’s been a tough time at work, or you’re feeling burned out from a new slate of responsibilities. You tell yourself, “I deserve this drink.” And on the surface, it feels like a straightforward way to relax.

Underneath, there might be more going on.

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The Real Reason You’re Reaching for That Drink

When Friday rolls around and you’re exhausted, alcohol can feel like a fast track to comfort. It’s the shortcut your brain has learned, an easy button to numb stress. Over time, alcohol can become your default response to any intense emotion, whether it’s boredom, overwhelm, sadness, or even the urge to celebrate.

This pattern isn’t about weakness or lack of willpower. It’s about emotional regulation.

Alcohol bypasses the body’s natural stress-regulation systems. Instead of processing our feelings, we outsource that job to a substance. The result? We never really learn how to manage stress in healthier ways—our nervous system doesn’t get a chance to build resilience, and our emotional “toolkit” stays sparse.

The Concept of Emotional Bookkeeping

Most people don’t realize they’re doing emotional bookkeeping all week. You hold it together through difficult conversations, long meetings, and never-ending to-do lists. Maybe you’re pleasing everyone around you, putting out fires at work, or managing family expectations. But you rarely pause to fully process how that is making you feel.

By Friday night, all that emotional weight is still there. It hasn’t been dealt with. It’s just been accumulating. That’s when a drink starts to feel less like a treat and more like a survival tool, even if that feeling is subconscious.

But using alcohol to hit reset on the week won’t solve the problem. It may even compound it by delaying the real emotional processing your body and mind need.

From Numbing to Nurturing: Relaxing Without Alcohol

To truly reset, you need true restoration. That means proactively supporting your nervous system throughout the week, not just numbing out at the end of it. You need to process your emotions and regulate stress.

Here are some simple ways to relax without alcohol. Remember, these should happen all throughout the week, not just when you find yourself in a state of overwhelm.

• Breathwork: Deep, slow breathing directly signals your nervous system to calm down. Try a few minutes of box breathing when stress creeps in.
  
• Movement: Gentle exercise helps release built-up tension. It doesn’t have to be intense. A walk or a gentle stretching session can go a long way.
  
• Connecting with others: Having a meaningful conversation with a friend or loved one imbues your day with humor and perspective.
  
• Intentional rest: Replace mindless scrolling with reading, meditating, taking a bath, listening to soothing music…
  
• Nature: Spending time outside, even for ten minutes, can help you reconnect with yourself.
  

You can also create small rituals that signal to your brain it’s time to relax: lighting a eucalyptus candle, for instance, or making a non-alcoholic drink that feels like a treat. (You can even use a shaker.) These rituals help build new associations with relaxation, ones that don’t involve alcohol.

A Mindful Pause Can Change Everything

Next time you reach for a drink to “unwind,” pause. Ask yourself: What do I really need right now? Is it rest? Connection? A moment to breathe? A few minutes in which you don’t feel like you have to be “on”?

That slight pause is huge. It gives you a moment to choose, not to default to habits that don’t align with your goals.

Relaxation doesn’t have to come in a glass. It can come from caring for yourself in ways that genuinely restore you, without the crash or regret that alcohol might bring. 

By relaxing without alcohol, you begin to build a life where you don’t just get through the week. You finish it out feeling happy and restored.

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What is Sunnyside?

Sunnyside is a mindful drinking and alcohol moderation app that can help change your habits around alcohol using a proven, science-backed method. Whether you want to become a more mindful drinker, drink less, or eventually quit drinking, Sunnyside can help you reach your goals. We take a positive, friendly approach to habit change, so you never feel judged or pressured to quit.

When you join Sunnyside, you’ll start by completing a 3-minute private assessment so we can learn a bit about you. Once that’s done, you’ll get a 15-day free trial to test out everything, including our daily habit change tools, tracking and analytics, community and coaching, and education and resources. It’s a full package designed specifically to adapt to your goals, and help you reach them gradually, so you can make a huge impact on your health and wellbeing.

Sunnyside is a digital habit and behavior-change program that is incredibly effective on its own, but can also be the perfect complement to other work you’re doing to cut down on drinking, whether that includes talk therapy or medication such as Naltrexone.

Get your 15-day free trial of Sunnyside today, and start living your healthiest life.